If you have decided to end your marriage, it is important that you make smart and informed choices about what will happen to your children and to your shared property. Divorce can be a complicated and emotionally difficult process, but the outcome of your divorce is going to shape your future for a long time to come. Too many people make mistakes during divorce that affect their relationship with their children or their future financial security. Don't let this happen to you.
An experienced divorce attorney can provide you with assistance in understanding the divorce process and in making the choices that will set you and your children up for the most secure possible future as you move on.
Top Four Mistakes Couples Make During a Divorce
There are lots of mistakes people make when ending their marriages, but five of the most common errors include:
- Being unwilling to compromise: If you are not willing to make reasonable concessions on the issues of custody and property, you and your ex will not be able to come to an agreement outside of court. It is always best for families to try to avoid going to court to decide on custody and property, because a judge does not know your family as well as you do. You cannot make unreasonable demands and expect your ex to acquiesce to them and you don't want to spoil the negotiation process because you are sad or angry. Talk with an attorney for help to find out what you can reasonably expect, and be reasonable about what you ask for during divorce negotiations.
- Being too accommodating: Although you don't want to be too unwilling to compromise, you also don't want to be too accommodating either. If you feel guilty about divorcing, you may be more willing to give in to your ex. You could end up unhappy or facing long-term financial hardship if you are too eager to compromise during the divorce process.
- Not understanding your legal rights: Many people have misconceptions about the law when it comes to division of property or custody issues. If you don't understand what you are entitled to, you could give up time with your kids or property that you deserve to keep. Working with an attorney is important so you can understand your rights.
- Assuming that you must litigate the issues: If you assume you have to go to court, you are less likely to explore alternatives such as mediation that could result in better outcomes.
An attorney can help you to avoid these issues and to find ways during a litigated or negotiated divorce to protect your family and your assets. You should involve a lawyer as soon as possible so you can protect your future.